When I was a kid, my first word was no. "Do you want some peas?" "No!' "Do you like the color brown?" "No!" But over the years I've gotten to be much more of a yes-sayer than no-sayer. I love people and I love saying yes to responsibilities, events and activities galore. I mean, there are so many things I'm interested in and want to do. Why shouldn't I try to do them all? All the things are good things.
But the truth is, I need to say no more in my life. When I was in Mexico over Christmas (there's just no way to say that without sounding douche-y, is there?), I had so many opportunities to do absolutely nothing. Which I took full advantage of. And now I'm seeing that my life has become unbearably stretched thin. I'm snarky, I'm tired, and I'm super insecure about my future. I'm feeling like I'm not doing anything well. Well, if you stop and think about it, of course I'm not doing any one thing well. I've got too many things to do to give any of them the full attention they deserve.
I think it goes back to that old maxim, "Less if more." If you have less stress, you have more quality. If you have less to do, you can invest more fully into the few things you are doing.